Gay Bar: Why We Went Out (Hardcover)

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An indispensable, intimate, and stylish celebration. “Gay Bar is an absolute tour de force.” (Maggie Nelson)

"Beautiful...Atherton Lin has a five-octave, Mariah Carey-esque range for discussing gay sex.” –
New York Times Book Review

Strobing lights and dark rooms; throbbing house and drag queens on counters; first kisses, last call: the gay bar has long been a place of solidarity and sexual expression—whatever your scene, whoever you’re seeking. But in urban centers around the world, they are closing, a cultural demolition that has Jeremy Atherton Lin wondering: What was the gay bar? How have they shaped him? And could this spell the end of gay identity as we know it?

In Gay Bar, the author embarks upon a transatlantic tour of the hangouts that marked his life, with each club, pub, and dive revealing itself to be a palimpsest of queer history. In prose as exuberant as a hit of poppers and dazzling as a disco ball, he time-travels from Hollywood nights in the 1970s to a warren of cruising tunnels built beneath London in the 1770s; from chichi bars in the aftermath of AIDS to today’s fluid queer spaces; through glory holes, into Crisco-slicked dungeons and down San Francisco alleys. He charts police raids and riots, posing and passing out—and a chance encounter one restless night that would change his life forever. 

The journey that emerges is a stylish and nuanced inquiry into the connection between place and identity—a tale of liberation, but one that invites us to go beyond the simplified Stonewall mythology and enter lesser-known battlefields in the struggle to carve out a territory. Elegiac, randy, and sparkling with wry wit, Gay Bar is at once a serious critical inquiry, a love story and an epic night out to remember.

About the Author

Jeremy Atherton Lin was raised in California and now lives in London, where he studied writing at the Royal College of Art. Jeremy’s work has been published in the White Review, Tinted Window and the Times Literary Supplement, and he has been short-listed for the Fitzcarraldo Editions Essay Prize. He is an editor at Failed States, a journal of art and writing on place.

Praise For…

New York Times Editors’ Choice 
NPR’s Best Books of 2021
Artforum’s Best Books of 2021
Vogue’s Best Books of 2021
LitHub's Most Anticipated Books of 2021
Cosmopolitan's Best LGBTQI+ Books of 2021
Debutiful's Best Books of February
Queerty’s Best Holiday Reads

“A beautiful, lyrical memoir…Atherton Lin has a five-octave, Mariah Carey-esque range for discussing gay sex.”

“A remarkable debut. . . it’s a difficult book to pin down, but that’s what makes it so readable and so endlessly fascinating. . . Each observation is sharp and phrased beautifully; Atherton Lin wastes no words, and the ones he chooses are carefully considered. Gay Bar is a book that’s beyond impressive, and Atherton Lin’s writing is both extremely intelligent and refreshingly unpretentious.”

"The treatment of time in the book — the way the present is peeled back to reveal the past — is beautiful, and original. Throughout there is a feeling of simultaneity, of queer lives and histories moving in parallel, of nightlife as a site of pleasure, play and resistance…How movingly he replicates it here, with his wide, strobing intellect, enlivening skepticism, rascally allure.”
 —Parul Sehgal, NEW YORK TIMES

“A beautiful amble through the world of gay bars . . . a rich tapestry of history, theory, and criticism.”

“Brilliantly written . . . Atherton Lin writes as though he himself is a sign of the times. With gusto and a sense of abandon he describes his own hunger for excitement, with scenes that are gloriously locked in the present moment.”
 —Colm Tóibín, THE GUARDIAN

“For when you really miss going out… This book will make you miss it even more. Atherton Lin’s stylish debut explores the history and cultural resonance of gay bars…It’s a wistful exploration of queer life, history, liberation, and identity. And feels especially vital right now when we’re all stuck inside.”

“A detailed, frank and brilliantly personal account…Already, Gay Bar reads like a cult classic.”

“I can’t remember the last time I’ve been so happily surprised and enchanted by a book. Gay Bar is an absolute tour de force.”—MAGGIE NELSON

“Jeremy Atherton Lin's personal history of queer nightlife is shot with vibrant intellectual adrenaline. With keen original insight, he celebrates the gay bar as a site of ribald, sensuous, and urgent resistance. A must-read for all.”—CATHY PARK HONG, author of MINOR FEELINGS

“An essential read in 2021.”—VOGUE, Best Books of the Year

“Lively and dirty, intellectual and gossipy, Gay Bar is the rare book that feels both like a guilty pleasure and like it is making you considerably smarter as you read. A super-exciting debut and an important document of queer lives.”—MICHELLE TEA, author of BLACK WAVE and AGAINST MEMOIR

A book of rare dream-like power, an exacting anthropology of queer life. Brainy, audacious, funny, vulnerable, and sexy, Gay Bar is endlessly awake not just to codes and signs but to a culture that’s changing faster than most of us are able to see.”
 —PAUL LISICKY, author of LATER: My Life at the Edge of the World

“Utterly blown away. Jeremy Atherton Lin creates something new from a territory that feels so familiar and known. We can never have enough complex, intersectional writing about queer experience, and this is such a welcome, needed addition to the canon.”—NIVEN GOVINDEN, author of THIS BRUTAL HOUSE and DIARY OF A FILM

Gay Bar is searching, erudite, and sexy. With verve and grace, it probes the past, present, and future of queer life while refusing easy binaries. Gay Bar is about pleasure, but deeply serious too. It is wonderful — one of the best books I have read in ages.”—KATHERINE ANGEL, author of UNMASTERED and DADDY ISSUES

“Each page made me yearn for the dance floor and each chapter made me think about our need for queer spaces in new ways. I'm so glad that someone has written the definitive book about gay bars...but specifically, Atherton Lin, who has captured the subversiveness and sexiness that make these places what they are, or, tragically, were.”—AMELIA ABRAHAM, author of QUEER INTENTIONS

“Like the hypnotic thumps of good house music, Jeremy Atherton Lin’s voice pulses. Painstakingly researched and tenderly written, Gay Bar marks queer bars as sites of resistance and reinvention. I longed for nothing more than to club hop with him, to occupy the spaces between light and shadow, between love and desire, and to consume the night alongside him so that we might emerge wholly new.”—ALEX ESPINOZA, author of CRUISING: An Intimate History of a Radical Pastime

“Raunchy, tender, and bracingly erudite, Gay Bar is an archaeology, a 4 a.m. afterparty, a disco-and-glitter drenched fever dream. In luxuriant, sublimely evocative prose, Atherton Lin wafts between personal anecdote and political history, exploring the evolution of queer spaces, and how their disappearance is a sign of what we’ve both gained and lost. Gay Bar is pure pleasure to read: like having an intimate conversation with your funniest, smartest friend."—DAVID ADJMI, author of LOT SIX

“A vibrant and wistful report on a bygone era in gay culture.”

KIRKUS, Starred Review

“Playful, hilarious, arousing, shocking and challenging.”

“Masterful…[Gay Bar] has something for every reader…This superb, multifaceted book takes a close look at gay bars individually and as concept, in history and in the author's life, tackling big questions with wisdom and grace.”

“Jeremy Atherton Lin’s intimate history of gay culture — from the 18th century to today — is electric, immersive, and impossible to look away from. . . . It’s an illuminating, sexy, vibrant examination of place and identity.”

“Jeremy Atherton Lin’s intimate history of gay culture — from the 18th century to today — is electric, immersive, and impossible to look away from. . . . It’s an illuminating, sexy, vibrant examination of place and identity.”

“A grand, cross-continental adventure. . . . [Atherton Lin’s] deep and vivid details bring his memories to life in a way that will make you feel like you are smack dab in the middle of those bars alongside him. His examination of these spaces from all sides will make you think about them in brand new ways.”

“A kinetic bar crawl through space and time and subculture. . . . Gay Bar  feels like a love letter, and of the realest sort — one that expresses devotion through piercing, sustained attention, that takes delight in negotiating.”

“[A] diamond of a book; its milky imperfections streak through the text like a hot load shot across a greedy, gorgeous face…Gay Bar elides categories, determined to queer gender and genre alike, smearing even this commonplace with a sweaty, gropey touch…Atherton Lin’s thick description of this mélange works the magic of a Proustian madeleine. This is, in part, because he writes the way gay culture looks and feels: he is both evasive and effervescent…But Atherton Lin is after something more: the glam camp of undiluted faggotry. This is writing as drag, and it aims at times to be just as tawdry and exhibitionist.”

“With his incisive, kinetic prose, Atherton Lin fuses together memoir, travelogue and history lessons, turning a lifetime of bar hopping into a richly queer palimpsest… Right now, when most bars are closed, Atherton Lin is the friend you cannot wait to have sitting on the barstool next to you when they reopen. Brilliant, intelligent and witty, Gay Bar will intoxicate you until they do.”—WINNIPEG FREE PRESS

“A refreshing glimpse into the sweaty glory of the humble queer haven we’ve missed in the last year…If you’re looking for an honest and visceral reading experience, Gay Bar really is the book for you.” 

“Atherton Lin takes us on a journey threaded by his own heady experiences, reflecting with unbridled sexual honesty on the role various gay bars played. Always unvarnished – appropriately salacious – the gay ‘scenes’ of Los Angeles, San Francisco, and London come to life, rich with smell, taste, tribalism, and always a frisson of sexual tension…This is exceptional writing.”

Product Details
ISBN: 9780316458733
ISBN-10: 0316458732
Publisher: Little, Brown and Company
Publication Date: February 9th, 2021
Pages: 320
Language: English